THINK BEFORE YOU QUIT YOUR MARRIAGE

If you look at photos of you and your partner together, how do you feel?

What was the first thing attracted you to your partner? Do you still find that thing attractive?

When did you last feel very emotionally connected with your partner

In what ways could you be considered fortunate to be with the person you are with now?

Disregarding logic, what does your gut tell you?

Disregarding your gut, what does logic tell you?

Imagine a friend in exactly your situation, what would you tell them to do?

Could you accept your partner if you were informed that they could never in the future fundamentally change in any way?

What difficulties might you be contributing to the relationship?

If you could change one thing about your partner what would it be?

If they could change one thing about you, what do you imagine it would be?

What would your partner need to understand and how would they need to change in order for you to be happy staying? Have you let them know these criteria

Write two stories in your head : my present partner and me in ten years. Me and someone else in ten years. Compare and contrast

Can you imagine - after a year apart- regretting your decision to leave? What would you miss? Now list what you would not miss.